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Keysha Freshh – Vanity

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Vanity is a 8 track EP, with production from J Reid (credits : A-Game, P Reign, Freddie Gibbs, Zeyon, Ciara, Ryan Leslie and Skeme) and Ace from Tha Cirkus. Keysha reunites with Toronto producer Gunna (who was responsible for producing her first hit “Hollywood Fresh”) on the first single off of Vanity, called “Rewind, Undo”.

“It’s always love working with Steph J, hes one of my favorite people to work with period. He gets things done, he wants a good product, hes not afraid to tell me no, or lets try something different, I learn from him” – explains Keysha.

Features include Toronto up and comer Steph J, on “See nobody” and songstress Tanisha on the title track “Vanity”, both records produced by Ace.

“Im not a vain person at all, but if I were to be, this would be it. I say a lot of things that I was…

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Are you TOO Nice?

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Do you find yourself taking care of others and feeling frustrated? Do you  worry about how others are going to make it if you do not help them? Do you feel  drained by how much you do for others?

If you answered yes to those questions, you might be a codependent. My  definition of a codependent is when you take care of others at the expense of  yourself. This topic was written about extensively by Melody Beattie in the book  Codependent No More and if you want a real thorough look at the topic you should  pick up the book.

I find there is a fine line between helping another and co-dependence. Here is  a quick way to tell the difference: Co-dependence will leave you drained,  frustrated and angry; while helping for helping sake will lead you to feel  uplifted. Here are some other clues to see if you are codependent:

• You have resentment that the person you are helping should be doing more  for themselves.

• You blame them for not being different, “after all that I have done.”

• You worry about others more than they worry about themselves.

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you might be engaging in  co dependence. If so, start by asking yourself the following questions when you  consider taking care of someone else:

1. What do I need?

2. What is MY heart’s desire?

3. How can I be helpful to another and not neglect myself in the process?

4. What do I get out of being codependent?

These questions are important, because they can help you get back in touch  with your needs and wants rather than focusing on what someone else needs and  wants. Truthfully, you can only take care of yourself, not anyone else. During  this process you might find you feel a strong pull to help the other person.  Allow yourself to hold back and give the other person an opportunity to do it  for themselves (even if it might lead to “failure”). There is a greater  satisfaction completing a task (no matter the results) themselves as opposed to  someone else doing it for them.

My motto is, “I have to be good to myself, so I can be helpful to another.”  Is this selfish? I don’t think so. Is it emotionally healthy? I think yes. The  lesson is to take care of myself and allow others to take care of  themselves.

Kim McLaughlin, MA is a licensed counselor and a motivational coach. She  specializes in counseling people with binge eating, emotional eating and eating  disorders. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor.

Kim McLaughlin, MA has been identified as writing one of the Top 50 Blogs  about Emotional Eating by the Institute on Emotional Eating. Sign up for her  free Special Report: Top Strategies to End Binge Eating here or visit her  website at http://www.feedyoursoulunlimited.com.

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6 Ways to attract a Good Man

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1. BE A GOOD WOMAN.

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Sounds too easy right? Must be some kind of Pyramid scheme right? No. it is that simple. When you are a good woman you attract good men. Another key ingredient in this is knowing who deserves your time and who does not. The way to know this is to look at who reminds you of yourself when it comes to the way you love. It is easier to be with someone who expresses love the same way you do.

2.HAVE A LIFE OF YOUR OWN.

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Women who have lives just don’t have enough time to chase or notice men not putting in full effort to court them. You have many things to do with your time and are very happy with your life. Good men love women who are passionate about something other than being in their faces 24/7. What do you spend your time doing? How many goals are you actively pursuing as we speak? You should always do things to make yourself feel great about living outside of a relationship. This will add a healthy balance to any relationship you decide to enter in the future.

3.BE MYSTERIOUS.

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Are you an open book? Do you post every good, bad and ugly thing that happens in your life to social media? There is something very alluring and magnetic about a woman who can maintain a little mystery. Whether it be the limit you place on the things you share online or the information you share with others, it makes you mysterious. This doesn’t mean you have to hide anything, it means you don’t feel the need to expose every beautiful chapter of your life to whoever is willing to listen. Men have no interest in playing therapist, save your childhood trauma stories for your journal and therapist. Try keeping a little to the imagination and to the mind to think about. I am no prude so I won’t tell you how to dress but be willing to switch it up sometimes. ;)

4. HAVE SELF CONFIDENCE.

Strong-confident-womanEveryday you should do things to feel more beautiful, empowered and capable. Self confidence shows up in your words, actions and the way you carry yourself. Sometimes we have to fake it until we make it to really feel like we have what it takes to make it. Work on telling yourself positive things and using words of affirmation to condition your mind to succeed and feel more confident. It takes time but it will eventually happen for you.

 

5. BE HAPPY.

imagesHappiness is not just about yelling Bingo. To be happy means you are choosing to focus your mind on the good stuff going on in your life. This doesn’t mean things are perfect or moving without occasional hitches, it means you focus on the fact it is MOVING. What you choose to focus on expands and will effective your state of mind for the better or worse. When you decide to focus on all the great things that the future holds for you and how much you have to look forward to happiness will find you.

6. INTRODUCE HIM TO YOUR BRAIN, BEFORE YOUR BODY.

black-woman-readingSex is something most adults really enjoy and for good reason. However, nothing could feel worse than thinking a relationship is going *thumbs up  x fist pump* and giving it up to only be forgotten. Ouch. Not the most rewarding position to be in. All men eventually want some, but it is always in your full control when and if it happens. Let him get to know who you are as woman first. See if you share any real interests or values. I mean could you live with yourself to know you slept with a guy who thinks Beyonce’s Dangerously In Love album sucked? Or someone who thinks Nutella is gross?…These are things you need to know upfront before you wake up beside a Beyonce Nazi Nutella deprived hater. Don’t let it be you girl!

Written By: Natosh Monroe

8 signs you are a Power Couple

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1. You feel blessed to be his woman.

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When you think about all you have both been through together and how much love you feel for each other, you can’t help but to feel blessed. You know just how lucky you are to have such a loyal and loving man by your side and you wouldn’t trade him for the world.


2. He has told you that you make him better.

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Men are not big on constantly expressing how they feel verbally but if he does tell you this he means it. Women assume good sex and homemade pancakes are all it takes to please a man. The most powerful attraction is how you make him feel about himself when he is with you. The way you make him feel about his own ability to accomplish greater things and to know you support him through it all. This is honestly how simple men are to please. No games, tricks or morse code to crack.

3. You look amazing together.
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Who doesn’t love seeing a couple that looks super hot together? Think Angelina Jolie and Brat Pitt or Beyonce and Jay Z. It’s not even about both being genetically blessed but more comfortable and confident looking together. If you have been told how beautiful of a couple you are this is a sign you exude confidence, love and happiness together.


4. You both know how to apologize.

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This is so HUGE. Have you ever dated a person who was too ignorant to be able to apologize when they were at fault? There is nothing more mature than dating a man or woman who knows how to apologize. There is nothing weak about caring for your partners feelings and being able to point out your own mistakes. It takes two strong individuals to embrace a sincere apology with ease.

5. You both have great careers that are going well.
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One of the top qualities of a power couple are how well they are doing professionally. If you both have great satisfying careers you qualify as a power couple. If you are dating a man who you are supporting completely while you bust your tail-you are not a power couple. Same goes for a man working while his lady shops and watches Keeping up with the Kardashian’s all day. Power couples upgrade one another and each partner is putting in work to build the family empire.


6. You have hilarious enjoyable moments together that make you smile when you remember them.

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Thinking back to your last date, first vacation together and special intimate moments you have so much to smile about. Your partner knows how to make you laugh and feel so good about yourself. Being able to goof around and be yourself is amazing in a relationship. The world is serious enough, if you both can throw caution to the wind when together you have yourself a keeper.

7. You know how to get the best out of him.
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When a woman knows her man we she knows how to easily piss him off if she really wanted to but would prefer to.make him better through words of encouragement. If you dedicate your time and energy to bringing out the best in your man why would he ever stray? If you do it enough he will feel lost without you and look at you like you are magic.

Being the woman who can boldly walk into his dark depressive cave with a warm embrace and light to guide him out with ease is a keeper. I don’t believe in enabling men to complain and stay down when life hits them down. I give that football coach “Get off your ass don’t quit! We don’t quit we get this money and win” kind of pep talk. Hugs and kisses are great too but were dealing with strong brilliant men here not My Little Pony Action figures. If you are his strength when he is weak and visa verse you two are powerful together.

8. You won’t give up on each other no matter what.
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Quitting to me is disgusting. Redirecting and using a new strategy is intelligent. Giving up on a person is hurtful and says a lot about you as well. Some relationships are toxic and this is the wisest form of action to take. If you are dating someone who is committed to being miserable that will corrode your relationship eventually. However, when you know that your man loves you flaws and all you will go harder for the relationship. Having someone who will tell you the truth and be quick to remind you of your own potential when you need to hear it most is a beautiful thing. Sometimes we don’t realize what we have until we find worse. If you have a great man on your team cherish, love and hold onto him tight. Power couples are amazing,  the world needs more of that.

Written By: Natosh Monroe

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What Skin Type Do You Have?

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Skin types change over a period of time. Younger people tend to have normal skin, but as you age it changes into other types depending on the water content, oil content and sensitivity level.

Water content provides comfort and elasticity to skin. Oil / lipid content provide softness to your skin.

The initial type of skin is genetically determined, that is the type of skin you are born with. However, the health and quality of the skin, later in life largely depends on what you eat and how you take care of your skin. You look great if you have a great skin. To always look great you have to determine your skin type, so that you can take good care of it by the recommended methods and slow down the aging process.

To know your skin type, there is a simple test. Take a clean tissue and wipe the skin of face with it, the moment you get up in the morning. Depending on the oil on the tissue it will be categorized as:

1. Normal
Tissue will not reveal any traces of oil and skin will feel vibrant, elastic and supple. Normal skin is the blessed skin as it is the least problematic skin. Even with a little care, it will look good in your advanced age. Skin is clean, smooth, has a healthy blood circulation and complexion.

2. Dry
Tissue will not reveal any traces of oil in this case also but the skin will feel dry, flaky and tight after wiping it. It will develop wrinkles, fine pores and a sallow tone. It is very prone to aging and becomes sensitive also. To keep it healthy it needs good and regular skin care.

3. Oily
This skin will cause oily stains on most of the tissue. Excess production of sebum not only makes skin oily, but also stretches pores. When the oil mixes with dirt and make up breakouts can also happen.

4. Combination
Tissue test will show oil stains around your oily areas -nose, chin and forehead. It will remain dry under the rest of the area – eyes and cheeks. It will require two different types of treatment, for the oily areas and for the dry areas.

5. Sensitive
Redness, dryness, burning and itching can show up on the sensitive skin. If your skin is sensitive, see what triggers it so that you can avoid them.

For more information on skin care and related products, see http://www.purastem.com

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Know Your Skin Type

Expert Author Tilly Bell

Skin types change over a period of time. Younger people tend to have normal skin, but as you age it changes into other types depending on the water content, oil content and sensitivity level.

Water content provides comfort and elasticity to skin. Oil / lipid content provide softness to your skin.

The initial type of skin is genetically determined, that is the type of skin you are born with. However, the health and quality of the skin, later in life largely depends on what you eat and how you take care of your skin. You look great if you have a great skin. To always look great you have to determine your skin type, so that you can take good care of it by the recommended methods and slow down the aging process.

To know your skin type, there is a simple test. Take a clean tissue and wipe the skin of face with it, the moment you get up in the morning. Depending on the oil on the tissue it will be categorized as:

1. Normal
Tissue will not reveal any traces of oil and skin will feel vibrant, elastic and supple. Normal skin is the blessed skin as it is the least problematic skin. Even with a little care, it will look good in your advanced age. Skin is clean, smooth, has a healthy blood circulation and complexion.

2. Dry
Tissue will not reveal any traces of oil in this case also but the skin will feel dry, flaky and tight after wiping it. It will develop wrinkles, fine pores and a sallow tone. It is very prone to aging and becomes sensitive also. To keep it healthy it needs good and regular skin care.

3. Oily
This skin will cause oily stains on most of the tissue. Excess production of sebum not only makes skin oily, but also stretches pores. When the oil mixes with dirt and make up breakouts can also happen.

4. Combination
Tissue test will show oil stains around your oily areas -nose, chin and forehead. It will remain dry under the rest of the area – eyes and cheeks. It will require two different types of treatment, for the oily areas and for the dry areas.

5. Sensitive
Redness, dryness, burning and itching can show up on the sensitive skin. If your skin is sensitive, see what triggers it so that you can avoid them.

For more information on skin care and related products, see http://www.purastem.com

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6 Things Every Extrovert Secretly Has To Deal With

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Great Article on what my fellow Extroverts deal with.
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Over the past few years I’ve noticed a growing number of articles exclaiming, “How To Take Care of An Introvert” or “10 Things Everyone Should Understand About Introverts” and while I have no real problem with introverts and introversion, my issue is with the fact that people of the internet seem to have romanticized introversion in a way that turns any possible social impediments a person might have into desirable quirky traits. Not only this, but extroverts are suddenly the bad guys for not understanding introverts or mistreating introverts, etc, etc.

As a self-proclaimed extrovert, I’m pretty sick and tired of people assuming that introverts are the only people who have got it hard. Really, seriously? Are we really going to play this game? Now you look here, mister. Extroverts may not seem as delicate or may not seem as complex and diverse, but extroverts…

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How to Get the Faux Glow

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Orange is NOT the New Black

Most self-tanners contain dihydroxyacetone (DHA), a colourless sugar that interacts with the top layer of skin to darken it. Unappealing orange tints from a self tanner are often due to a saturation of DHA which can occur when you layer on too much product or when using a brand containing higher levels of DHA than your skin type can handle. To determine how a self-tanning solution will work with your skin, apply a small amount of product to a test area before covering your whole body. Some people tolerate higher levels of DHA than others based on the tone and pH of your skin. Besides avoiding the urge to slather or spray on loads of product, choosing the right formula can also help determine how your tan appears. Use a reputable brand containing less DHA and build up your colour accordingly. Bronze seekers should also go for products infused with erythrulose, a sugar sourced from raspberries to yield longer lasting results and a beautiful golden hue. Some great self tanners, like those found in the St Tropez collection, also contain green pigment to help counteract any orange.

Scrub Up

Exfoliating thoroughly is the single most important step if you want smooth, streak-free colour. The outer layer of the epidermis, which is what the self tanner interacts with, is composed of dead skin cells that only last seven to ten days before they shed. You want to make sure you have an even layer of dead skin cells so that they all tan and slough off together. Go for a scrub that is gentle (think spherical, man-made beads over granular and uneven ones) to avoid irritating the skin prior to tanning. Ideally you should be seeking out an oil-free scrub to avoid creating a barrier between your skin and the tan. Being sloppy with your scrubbing means that some of the skin will begin shedding after only a day or two, leaving you with an uneven patchy finish.

To Hydrate or Not Hydrate Your Skin?

Many experts recommend moisturising before you tan, while others believe that lotion interferes with the DHA and the skin. A good way to avoid the controversy is to use a gradual tan moisturiser prior to your usual tanning product which is formulated to work with DHA without clogging up your pores. Plus, if you miss a spot with the full-fledged self-tanner, you’ve already covered it with the gradual tanner. Skin should be dry pre-application, but you should use a light layer of oil-free moisturiser or particularly dry areas like elbows, hands, feet, ankles and knees so they don’t over absorb colour. Look for products that contain hydrating ingredients such as aloe vera, coconut or avocado oil to help compensate for any dryness. This is a clever fool-proof trick that will solve any dilemmas when it comes to the question of quenching your skin.

Start from the Bottom

Self tanning novices are best off using an easy to control mousse or gel with a wash off cosmetic tint. The advantage here is that you can see what you’re doing and you won’t miss any spots. For self-tanner veterans, using an aerosol spray is the quickest, most natural option. Start from the bottom of your body and work your way up so that you don’t crease the colour when bending.

Shady Lady

To fake cleavage worthy of a Victoria’s Secret catalogue, don your favourite push up bra thirty minutes after applying self-tanner. Next use an aerosol spray to contour the M-shaped indentation created by the bra on your decolette. This second coat will make the area appear darker and more defined. Other than this optical illusion, contouring endeavors should be left to the experts to avoid streaky, stripey outcomes. To thin thighs, use a powder body bronzer or long wearing gel to darken the sides of your legs.

VIVA’s Top Tanners

For Fair Skin

Creme de la Mer Gradual Tan -Tanning takes on a truly luxurious feeling and is light and subtle enough to compliment a celtic complexion. Tanning rookies can also take part knowing the results will be flawless and even. James Read Liquid Tan in Light – He’s the tanning expert to know, spritzing the likes of Rosie Huntington-Whitely and Poppy Delevigne. His Liquid Tan creates a natural, long lasting bronzed finish perfect for those with pale complexions.

Medium Skin Tones

St Tropez Bronzing Mousse – This super lightweight, easy to apply, velvety mousse delivers an ultra-even all-over tan. Infused with aloe vera, it dries in 60 seconds and develops naturally and evenly.

Guerlain Terracotta Sunless Tinted Self Tanning Gel – Packed with Argan oil and essential fatty acids, this light gel formula is deeply hydrating, scented with tiare flower and only takes an hour to develop.

Deep Skin Tones

St Tropez Dark Bronzing Spray – This fine, light weight spray tan is perfect for enhancing darker complexions as well as being incredibly long lasting and fragrance free.

Rodial Brazilian Tan Dark – Containing caramel for a rich chocolate hue, this Rodial product is second to none for achieving a just-back-from-Rio tan.

TOP TIPS

*Wearing latex gloves or using a tanning mitt will prevent staining your hands and give an even finish

*Use broad and uniform strokes to avoid uneven patches and streaks

*Choose the right tan for your tone and build up colour gradually. Use a gradual tanners on a pale skin whilst darker skin tones can benefit from more intense formulas|

*Don’t panic if you’re patchy! Use a little lemon juice and scrub the affected areas with a nail brush. The acid gently and naturally dissolves mistakes

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10 Ways to feel More confident in Relationships

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Have you ever felt insecure and suspicious of your partner? Have past relationships left you feeling men had to earn trust once put through rigorous tests you’ve created? Have you ever snooped through your boyfriends to check for any signs of cheating? If you answered ‘Yes’ to any of the above you may have lost confidence in your relationships.The truth is, as women at some stage in our relationships we will feel insecure.  The reasons range the gamut and can negatively impact the quality of the relationships we are in.  The law of attraction comes to mind which puts great emphasis on the power of our thoughts. It is said that we become what we focus on and attract what we spend time envisioning in our minds. You can not control what a man will ultimately do, but you have complete power to influence it by how you behave and how you react to it. Yes, some men cheat but that does not mean your man will cheat on you. Confidence has rated as one of the most desirable qualities in a woman by men worldwide. Confidence is unapologetic acceptance of yourself for who God made you to be. It’s waking up with a sense of purpose, knowing you deserve, just as much as anyone else to live the life you are living. You know your strengths and weaknesses and still feel like you are lovely no matter what anyone else says. If you would like to boost your confidence in your relationships with men, here are ten ways to get help you become the most confident woman ever.

Like most things to become a natural it will take practice and consistency to make it a habit.

Love Yourself

    Love yourself just a little more than you love your man. I know women tend to love hard and focus all their spare energy into their relationship. Although there is nothing wrong with being committed to someone else, you have to leave some of that amazing loving energy for yourself. Its like being in a scorching hot desert with a bottle of ice cold water. You have two cups and pour the entire bottle of water into his cup, leaving yourself with nothing to drink. Sure you love him enough to sacrifice, but eventually your well will run dry and it will hurt more than it helped. Striking a balance is the key to happiness. Love is not limited and is as plentiful as the heart can imagine. So take some of that love and give it to yourself. Buy yourself something nice once in awhile without guilt. Soak in a sweet scented bubble bath and enjoy a glass of fine wine. If you wait on someone else to do these things for you, it may never happen. So always show yourself love because you deserve just as much as he does.

Set Standards and Stick to them

   Standards are like the business plan of the dating world. Every business on this earth sets them for their employees and schools set them for their professors and students. Since you were a child you had to adhere to these standards set by your parents or teachers. It gave you some sense of direction on how well you needed to perform to be considered good enough. It’s funny how we almost forget they need to be as clear in our relationships  What your standard should be are left up to you. Only you know what truly matters most to your heart. If being in a monogamous relationship is important to you, then letting sex happen on the first date is clearly a no. If you want to be in loving and positive relationship, dating a man that swears at you and puts you done is counter productive  I encourage you to set standards and stick to them. It will make it much easier to know what you want and whether you currently have it or not. Also know what you are willing to offer that person in exchange. Mutually beneficial relationships are much more likely to stand the test of time.

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Take Care of Yourself

  I know that if you lead an extremely busy on the go life you may choose to spend less time on your look and more on get up and go clothes (see: Jogging pants, messy buns and sneakers). This may feel comfortable but it does not make you look fabulous. It is very easy for women who become home makers and students to let go of themselves overtime. Take some time to focus on making yourself look your best. If you have had the same haircut for several years, consider trying a new low maintenance look to revamp your look. If you own a full closet of sneakers and are against heels, purchase a pair of cute flats. The truth is men are visual creatures. Looking good brings compliments and who doesn’t like those? Hearing from friends and complete strangers that you look beautiful feels great. You feel appreciated for the effort you put into looking  great and it will boost your confidence right away.

Improve your Posture

 Body language accounts for 80% of communication. The way you walk, stand and sit says a lot about how you feel about yourself. When you look your best and know it, you will automatically walk with increased self-confidence. Your shoulders will be back, head upright and stride steady. Even if you don’t feel confident act like it! Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. Watch a few fashion shows and women you find attract to get an ideal of what good posture looks like. Chances are they look confident without even speaking by the graceful way in which they move. This will work wonders in attracting the men you want to you. He will see you smiling and sitting up confidently and feel much more curious about you.


Believe you are Rare

If your problem has been that you were cheated on before, it may have shaken your confidence. Some men make stupid decisions and the only thing we can do is forgive and forget. This helps you to become free of the pain and hopeful about your brighter future. You were born a winner no matter what you have been told. No one on this earth is like you and God makes no mistakes. If your man has become exclusive with you out of all the women he was dating before you came you stood out the most. If he is still with  you, there is something unique about you he needs in his life. If he is a great catch other women will indeed hit on him. However, that does not mean your value goes down. You have to make him believe you are better and more  rare in comparison. Most women would get upset and make him feel guilty for being attractive. Instead say “I love it when you get attention. You are a handsome man and wonderful man. I can see what they see in you. It’s what first attracted me, but I know and love the real you. So women hitting on you to me is cute”. This can be said in a million ways. The aim is to let him know you are not threatened, in love with him and most of all CONFIDENT. It’s as simple as that.


Don’t let ‘LIKES’ and “Double Taps” Provoke you

Facebook and Instagram have girlfriends going crazy. Online creeping is at an all time high and it is destroying relationships. If your boyfriend gets a couple “LIKES’ and comments from women, never freak out. Women can be nasty when they want to create an in for themselves. If he does not even reply to them then you should not consider that a threat. Instagram is land of the thirsty creepers. I have had men leave phone numbers under photos i have posted. Did I know them? Absolutely not. Did i respond? Nope. The point is you have him in the flesh. For all he knows the girl hitting on him could be a dude or Catfish. Getting mad that he liked a picture of a pretty lady doesn’t mean he wants her. If you find that this bothers you no matter what, don’t follow him on Instagram or Facebook. Getting mad will only make him think he is in a cage under impossible rules, no one likes to feel controlled. If he is with YOU, he wants to be. That was something he decided by the way you made him feel about himself. When you make him feel bad about things like this, you make him feel guilty and dishonest. Would you like it if he made you feel like that? I bet we both know the answer to that. Confidence also means picking your battles and knowing which are not worth it.


Trust Him

Trust is like the glue that bonds Ru Paul’s lace front wig to his scalp. Not even Hurricane Katrina could shake that baby and that is what you should aim to have in your relationships. Trust is everything and in some cases it has to be earned. It definitely goes both ways, what we are focused on is your part. When you give your trust to someone, you are giving them your approval and confidence to make upright decisions. When you do or say things to contradict this affectionate gesture, you take it back. You begin to make them feel unworthy of your approval and incompetent when it comes to being truthful. It is insulting and can make them stop trying to be honest. So like the North American judicial system, let him be innocent until proven guilty. In the meantime just enjoy your relationship and relax a little. You get what you focus on. Focus on creating a loving and exciting life together that he can’t wait to get back to after work. Everyone loves to come home to a happy and loving embrace from someone who believes in them. Be that strong, confident and loving woman for him.

Have a Life 

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder.Time away allows both of you to miss one another.It’s healthy to have balance and space in your relationship. Go workout at the gym, volunteer for a charity you believe in, read a good book, get a diamond cream facial or go out with your friends too. This will make you feel better and give you both something interesting to talk about when you two speak again. If you have ever spoke for hours on the phone with a guy before you know how enjoyable it was to share interesting stories and thoughts. Those stories become enriched with new and exciting experiences. Having something that makes you happy outside of your relationship makes you look fun and and intriguing to a man. Being clingy and obsessed with being with your boyfriend 24/7 will eventually overwhelm and bore him. He may not be mean enough to say it, but you will know by all the arguments you begin to have. What doesn’t come out your mouth will come out in your actions. Make him miss you every now and then by living your life and enjoying a little time apart for a few hours each week.

Let Go of the Past

By age 25 most women will have experienced the pain of heart break in love. It can sting like a bee but it should never discourage you from moving forward. You control when you let go and what you let stay in your life. If the relationship ended five years ago why let the pain be relevant today? Be conscious of the messages you play in your head when faced with situations that confuse you. A trick you can do to become more positive and uplifting is to say “If my boyfriend loves me and has proven so constantly,what could be a more positive reaction to this situation to show my love back?” Taking a split second to stop yourself from saying or doing something you will regret, will do wonders for your relationship.

Be Wary of advice 

Sometimes the things people will advise you to do will not be in your best interest. Unfortunately, when your life is going super awesome not everyone will be happy for you. You may be dating an incredibly amazing man and face a little rough patch, which leads you to confide in a close friend. Let’s say this friend has had bad luck with men, what do you suppose her advice to you will sound like? People will always give advice based on what they did or would do when in the same situation. It is safe to say it did not work if she has yet to find a man that reacted well to her problem solving methods. Her intentions may be genuine but you wouldn’t ask a poor woman for advice on how to get rich. Bad advice can greatly alter your confidence and make you think negative things you never did before. I always go to God first and and to friends with relationships I hope to have second. Consider the source before you take their advice as gospel.

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Written By: Natosh Monroe