You will become very rich. If you for one moment read that sentence and felt an ounce of doubt-this article was created for you. I am writing this article for the young and mature women out there who have given up on financial independence. The ones who convince themselves they don’t have greater earning potential because of some “invisible glass ceiling” bullshit they read about in Sociology or on Entrepreneur.com. Or the women who collectively plot to attract wealthy men as an enjoyable pass time. There is nothing wrong with wanting a man that can match your contribution but expecting him to raise and keep you is risky business. Sure men do earn more than women in the workplace but there are literally thousands of ways to make active and passive income so why let one source stop you?
I believe the best and most cherished money comes from your own pockets. When you work your butt off to create a life you can be proud of, living to find a baller at All Star Weekends becomes laughable. You may think you are so gorgeous and sweet you can fool rich men into tricking on you but do not be so naive THEY KNOW what you are doing. You set your price tag and they don’t mind paying it...FOR NOW. You will be far too busy handling your own business which should always be the focus. For those of you who are already making a great living enjoy this article as a refresher on why you go so hard. I’m proud of you girl! So let’s get into the: 8 Reasons you dont need to find a Rich Man.
1. You can become an even richer woman on your own.
My mother taught me and showed me through her actions it was possible to earn a substantial amount of money without having to fully rely on rich men. The truth is that if your only source of income is your boyfriend or sugar daddy you can’t guarantee future financial stability. It may work for a few months or years but what happens when he finds a beautiful, intelligent woman who looks just as good and costs less to date? If he is an astute business man he will realize the opportunity cost just doesnt make sense to stay with you. It makes practical and common sense to put that energy into a business of your own, as Lady Gaga said it wont wake up one day and tell you it doesn’t love you anymore.
2. It’s embarassing to be asked if you can be written off as a dependent on his taxes.
Technically if the man you are dating is taking care of you like a child, in my opinion you qualify as a dependent and should be written off on his taxes. Now whether the IRS agrees with me is another discussion I won’t get into. Point is to a relationship should be about more than money. It’s okay for your man to help you if you really need him to but there needs to be balance to avoid making him feel like an ATM.
3. Grown woman don’t have allowances.
Allowances stop with your parents. I know all the professional gold diggers are fuming on their Versace bedsheets as they read this but its the truth. You may have a closet full of amazing designer clothing but what do you have in your bank account? There are plenty of decent wealthy men and then there are others that look at women who will accept allowances as their little toys. They demand sex and pleasure when they ask for it and you in a position like this must always comply. There are more enjoyable and satisfying ways to make money than that-trust me.
4. The lines between escorting and being a girlfriend become blurred.
Some people turn up their noses at escorts while doing the exact same thing in their relationships. If you are only sleeping and spending time with a man to get money-you ARE an escort. Sure you dont have an agency but that doesn’t mean you are not freelance. This applies to men who live off women for money to buy clothing and to have a roof over there heads. If being an escort is something you choose to be that is your choice. If it is something you don’t want to do for a living
have your own cash and conserve your ass.
5. You increase your attraction power by becoming who you feel you should be with when you ARE on the same level as the men you desire.
Successful men adore successful women. Just look at the men who fall into this category and who they marry. If you think and have the same approach to wealth as the rich do, you WILL eventually become just like them. If all you have to offer is your body and the latest gossip on Lindsay Lohan realize you will be easily discarded by a man seeking substance. You will also be in the same environment as successful men when you are successful as well, upgrading your dating pool options.
6. Being able to travel, shop and eat at the places you only dreamed on your own dime knowing there is more where that came from is a truly beautiful and empowering feeling.
What you focus on expands. If you spend all your time trying to discover where the Miami Heats will be partying so you can show up you are not focused on useful activities. If you focus on how to increase your skills and ways to rise to the earning level of an NBA player you empower yourself. One focus is lazy the other life changing. You control what to focus on just be aware of what it is you are truly are focusing on. If it doesn’t help it is by default hurting you.
7. When you become successful you will inspire both men and women to become the same. You will be seen as a woman of substance which will open many doors for you in life.
Women moving and shaking with people on the go are admired by us all. We want to know them and become their friends. The reasons we (myself included) are attracted to successful men is because we aspire to be the same. We want the finer things in life and to know they have attained it makes it seem more possible for us. The healthy way to go about attracting this person to you is to use him only as an inspiration not a source of income. This will definitely attract good opportunities into your life and open doors you didn’t even know existed.
8. Getting with a man just for his wealth is a dishonest and selfish mentality to have. Ambitious women weigh a man’s potential based on several factors to not waste valuable time.
When you are in a relationship that you are financially dependent on you open yourself to potential harm. If you are dating a controlling man he may yse it to punish and control everything you do. I feel its fine to want a man who can match your success, intellect, and drive-Actually I think that’s the best way to weigh a man’s potential. Dating a rich jerk is not enjoyable and neither is being with someone who you can’t connect with on a genuine emotional level.
At the end of the day women don’t want broke men and men don’t want broke women. When you become more like the caliber of men your heart truly desires you become their right hand-their equal. You won’t have to pretend to be anyone but yourself to make him fall for you. You won’t care how much money he makes as the sole reason you will give him a chance, instead you will focus on his character and lifestyle. This will reveal his real earning potential and whether he is worth the investment. Give him many things to brag to his friends about when it comes to your level of success and personality. God gave you two hands: One to help yourself and the other to help those in need. Say no no no to Gold Digging.
Written By: Natosh Monroe
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