Relationship Advice

7 Ways to maintain a Long Distance Relationship

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1.  KEEP UP COMMUNICATION.

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This is the only thing that will hold your relationship together. In a long distance relationship the phone and Skype take on a whole new meaning in your life. Good communication is consistent,  open and enjoyable. It is worth it to read more on effective communication and to be just as good of a listener to ensure you both feel heard and appreciated.

2. SPLIT ON TRAVEL EXPENSES.

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If your honey lives in NYC and you live in Miami flights usually go for roughly $180-$250. On a modest budget trying to scrape together flight money can be difficult.  Now if your darling handles $90-$125 your portion becomes much more easy to afford. You won’t be able to see each other in the flesh daily but trips become more frequent when you meet each other half way.

3. CREATE A SKYPE ACCOUNT.

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As mentioned earlier having a Skype account is extremely important for those living miles apart. It allows you to have instant video chats and the opportunity to see your partner pretty much whenever you want. It is free to download and very easy to use.

4. NEVER OVERREACT OR ASSUME.

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Some people have the misconception that if their boyfriend lives in another country he is definitely cheating or could be. Thinking this way is unhealthy and not factual. You won’t be able to clock your loves whereabouts, this is where trust takes over completely. Never assume you know things based on nothing but suspicion. Allow trust to work in your relationship and watch things go well for you both.

5. BE LOVING AND PATIENT.

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One of the challenging parts of having a boyfriend who doesn’t share your zipcode is feeling a constant longing for him. You will get frustrated and feel annoyed at times because of the distance. You can’t just drive over when you want a hug, you must wait  sometimes weeks between visits. This requires patience, dedication and loyalty. Being loving and understanding will solve more problems than it will create.

6. SURPRISE YOUR LOVE ON OCCASION.

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Credit Cards are amazing when it comes to wanting to surprise your love from miles away. I once had a boyfriend order dinner for me and paid for it using his credit card.  He noticed how hard I was working and wanted to “make me dinner” in a creative way. If you are a guy you can call a local florist and send a nice arrangement to your lady to brighten her day. If it is her birthday you can contact a local bakery and have a cake made as well. There are so many little thoughtful things you can do without being close. It’s all about being creative and putting in a little effort on both parts. Surprise visits are quite romantic as well.

7. EMBRACE SEXTING.
Sex is a topic we can’t ignore if you are an active adult you will have needs. Sexting is like phone sex via texting. The rules and limits are up to you. It is sexy and sensual to experience with your partner. Spices things up and builds anticipation between the both of you until the next visit. If you have never tried it I suggest you consider it. Its not as hard as you may think it is. It can be quite enjoyable if you are creative.

Written By: Natosh Monroe
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7 Ways to spice up a boring relationship

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1. GET OUT THE HOUSE!
If you are in a long term relationship you are most likely extra comfortable with your relationship-which is good!
What keeps things fresh and new is getting out of the house. Try dedicating at least one day a week to date night. This will allow you to always have special time together no matter how busy schedules may become.

2. CHILL OUT.
Relax. Breathe. Don’t sweat the small stuff. When you don’t feel attacked or judged you feel the opposite: safe and accepted. If you have been complaining a lot or nagging over issues, try chilling out. Before you knock that suggesting answer me this “Has the nagging permanently solved anything?” If not, try switching up your approach.

3. COMPLIMENT HIM.
This is a great way to change the tone of the relationship if you have been complaining a lot. Chances are he thinks he is failing at making you happy and he is probably feeling “unpretty” as a result. Compliment him. I find men drift to Instagram and other women for the ego boast via compliments. It makes sense compliments make you feel great about yourself. Be genuine and tell him how handsome he looks. Compliment his ability to get things done or his cooking. Like us men want to feel appreciated and attractive. Compliments will be your way of accomplishing both with ease.

4. BE MORE SPONTANEOUS.
Never schedule sex thats really not sexy. Be spontaneous when it comes to more experiences. Plan random dates, switch up your look, cook something exotic or show interest in something he loves for once. Relationships grow and feel new when new experiences take place. Be open to doing things at a moments notice and enjoy being spontaneous together every now and then. It will bring the fun back to a stagnant relationship.

5. BECOME A LITTLE MYSTERIOUS.
Men love mysteries and solving shit.
They love shows like CSI and The First 48 for that reason. Sure you both know each other well by now but if you start engaging in more activities outside of the relationship you break routine and become mysterious. Don’t bore him with a play by play everytime you go to hot yoga. Instead tell him every now and then and sometimes wait for him to ask. Reveal less and allow him to wonder. Mystery is interesting being an open book is not.

6. HAVE SEX.
I hear these horror stories about how long term couples stop having sex after awhile. Like once a month and other times only on statutory holidays excluding Jesus’s birthday out of Christian guilt. Men and women need to physically bond and that means Cake! Cake! Cake! Don’t hold out out and bring the passion back to your relationship.

7. TRY NEW THINGS TOGETHER.
Doing new things has really been the theme in this article and for good reason. In order to be out with the old, you have to be in with the NEW. Try baking together or playing Wheel of Fortune on Wii. Anything that allows you both to goof around and have a good time. The important thing is that you two are spending quality time together. This will give you more great memories biluilding a deeper bond with each other.

Written By: Natosh Monroe
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10 Signs you want out your Relationship

1.You answer late to his texts.
The truth is your texting response speed is a dead giveaway about how much you care. If you see a message and feel no urge to respond until you are bored, you don’t like the guy as much as you used to.

2. You pretend to be on your period.
If you blame old “Aunt Flow” for your bitch modes and inability to have sex this is a very passive aggressive way to deal with your partner. When the passion is gone and anger keeps rising that is a sign you want out.

3. You don’t get mad at him anymore.
One of the strongest signs a woman doesn’t want or care about you anymore is when she lets you say and do whatever you want. She won’t stop you from going out, won’t be upset you forgot the kids at Walmart and will not care you forgot to call her back. She doesn’t care about your slip ups because she has formulated a plan to leave very soon. Either that or she has your replacement around already.

4. You flirt back with other guys.
We all flirt to an extent but hard core flirting with sexual or inappropriate tones is going overboard. If you are turning it up a notch and giving other guys the time of day, you are slipping away from your relationship.

5. You publicly shared your bbm pin.
Its common sense that if you place your bbm on social media it is seen as a public invitation for randoms to add you. If you know deep down you wanted this to happen, in hopes a cute guy would, you are checking out emotionally.

6. You hid your Facebook relationship status.
Not wanting others in your business is fine and quite healthy. However, hiding your relationship status from the public only means you want to look single and available to other singles. When you are happy with you partner you have nothing to hide.

7. You feel held back from better things.
Does being with your man make you feel stuck?  Do you look at him and believe you have really settled and could do so much better? If the real answer is ‘YES’ you are not in love with that man.

8. You have fallen out of love.
Being in love is a strong enough feeling that you definitely know when it’s happening. If you without a doubt know you are not in love with a man anymore why string him along? Afraid you will lose his support and help? If so you are thinking selfishly and creating negativity around your blessings. If you don’t want anyone to string you along don’t do it to others.

9.You are only staying for the kids.
If you are literally only staying with a man for the sake of the children you have together in the long run you are not helping them at all. Divorces and seperations hurt at any age and realizing your parents dislike each other the more you age is not comforting either. A mother needs to be happy in order to be a good mother. If you are always sad,  unhappy and depressed it will be felt by the children. Is it worth it?

10. You wait anxiously for the lease on your apartment to be up so you can move out.
So you both live together and to be quite honest you could never afford this place alone. You don’t want to move and you also don’t want to live with him. The situation is sticky but cohabiting miserably isn’t worth the daily stress.

Many of the signs listed can be solved through better forms of communication. Leaving the relationship isn’t always necessary and problems can be mended if you both really want them to be. If you are experiencing signs of lost love, address your emotions and really decide if you should stay or go. Men can be difficult but no one deserves to be mistreated or cheated on.

Written By: Natosh Monroe
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6 Reasons you should not Chase a Man

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1. In order to chase something it must be trying to escape you. Men in love don’t try to escape.

To chase a man takes effort, force and loads of desperation. Sometimes you can end up chasing and not even realize until you’re drunk on World Star crying in a video you didn’t realize you uploaded. If a man is trying to leave or even thinking about it-LET HIM. I don’t care how many years you have been together. Holding on tighter won’t convince him to stay. Chances are he thinks it’s greener out there. Let him face the reality of dating in 2014. There is a 10/10 chance he will contact you again if you are nonchalant about it. Whether you want him back is up to you. Just don’t block the door you are not a barcade, you are a woman act like it.

2. Men are not careers. You chase success, money and your drinks only.

If you are self made and career driven you are used to taking control. You probably even send the “Good Morning beautiful” texts first 98% of the time. Men are not careers and the energy needs to change when dealing with them. It works when you go hard and fearlessly after career goals but not so easy with humans. The rule is chase success,  money and drinks only.

3. Think of a guy who REALLY likes you. Did you have to do any special tricks to make that happen? Answer: Nope.

When you met him he did most of the chasing and it was enjoyable. You let him take the lead while letting him know it was appreciated and worth the effort. Why change the bluueprint now? All men need is to know you appreciate their efforts and reassurance the effort isn’t going unoticed-that’s it. Just being sweet and respectful is all a lady must do. Extra crazy lengths to get his love are just not worth it.

4. Self Respect includes knowing when to let go and when you have outgrown a situation that no longer serves you.

I had to literally train myself to not feel guilty or bad when it came to releasing useless people from my life. If I knew them for years Id let them get away with murder. Today I have stopped the madness and have learned when to let go. If your relationship is miserable for him or yourself let go. If he doesn’t care to work it out, neither should you. It takes two to overcome rough patches. If you feel like you are the only one trying it’s a sign he has emotionally checked out.

5. He is most likely laughing about your stage four clinger ways with his friends which will eventually ruin your reputation with people you don’t even know-not worth it.

You know when a guy keeps messaging you retarded things you show your friends and laugh. We all do it and that’s just a fact. Do you really want his friends or God forbid new girl to see your emotional texts? Avoid the humiliation and don’t give him that pleasure. Sometimes guys will respond just to keep the ego inflated by your thirst for their attention. He doesn’t want you but he is flattered by your obsession with him in small doses. You are better than that.

6. If a guy wants you he will be giving you his time, love and attention without the need to fight for it. You’re not in the WWF relax ma’.

If when you met he knew how to call and treat you right don’t assume he forgot now. He knows very well how to treat you right he just doesn’t care or see the benefit anymore. Denying this cold hard truth isn’t going to help you in anyway. Accepting that people change and new things get rearranged is much more uplifting. If you could attract him you can attract another man. If he was good looking, you have the power to pull another handsome pants. If he was well to do, something about you appeals to men who are succeeding. Dont underestimate your power to attract better quality men. If you could swim once, you can swim again. Don’t fear the unchartered waters, you can do this.

Written By: Natosh Monroe

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7 Signs you are choosing the wrong men

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1. You think all men are the same.

I will be the first to admit to admit that there was once a time I actually felt this way. I will also add I was a teenager and had a very limited dating pool to base my views on. Preconceived  notions are a hell of a thing that can really hinder your chances of meeting a great man. Think of it this way: Let’s say I think all black people are criminals and not to be trusted. (Disclaimer: I am black *smile* and do not believe this) Now let’s say I am the hiring manager at Wells Fargo and I have to interview a candidate with an impressive resume and a graduate of Yale. I think the candidate is amazing on paper and set up an interview to meet this guy. When he arrives I am completely shocked because he is black and I don’t trust any black people based on what I felt before meeting him. With a mindset like this whether he could do wonders in the available position or not, I am going to be on guard waiting for him to mess up because I-not HIM, expect the worst. You get what you expect through the law of attraction. If you want better men you must first believe better men exist. If you do not i can guarantee you will continue to meet loads of frogs until you change your negative perspective.

 

2. You date physically abusive men.

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Domestic violence is no laughing matter and a very serious criminal offense. Many women and some men suffer in silence at the hands of controlling abusive partners. If you are  or have been in many abusive relationships, there is a high chance you may be making excuses for toxic men. When they show signs of jealousy you may misinterpret that as them simply caring for you deeply. Many abusers keep their victims close by crying afterwards or blaming external forces for their inability to change, playing on the heartstrings of overly compassionate victims. If you are in an abusive relationship there is help for you. Many shelters are available for women who are looking to escape violent living conditions. If this continues to happen to you, you need to begin evaluating the standards you have set in your personal relationships and adjust them accordingly.

 

3. You have never had a man send you flowers.

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I once had a girl tell me she has never had a guy open a car door for her while on a date or in general. This was so abnormal to me because I thought that was a normal thing all men I dated did. I then realized that not all men are that polite to women they date and that these insensitive men still exist. Whether it be flowers, a thoughtful card or just a ride home from work-good men do these things to make their women feel special. If you are always the one going out of your way to make a man feel loved, you are doing way too much. It should always be a nice and fair give and take; a beautiful and warm natural flow of affection between the two of you.

 

4. You cry more than you smile in your relationships.

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A healthy relationship will always make you feel good about yourself. You will have times that arguments will happen but this should never make you feel like crap for days. If the guy you are dating doesn’t care to make up with you before the end of the night r after a 24 hour cool down period, he may be more into himself than the relationship. Mature and well balanced men will calmly address any issue you two have because he wants to see you happy. Pain is not love and neither is having fights non stop. If this is happening to you it’s time you work on you. We can not change anyone faster than we can ourselves. Be honest with yourself about how you contribute to the fights and how you can react differently next time. Sometimes taking a step back can give you enough time to think through your own thoughts to avoid saying something you will regret.

 

5. Every guy you have ever dated cheated on you.

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The only thing I can say about this is that your trust is misplaced and you have completely fired your own God given “Women’s Intuition”. We all were born with shit talk detectors and know when we are being taken for a ride. If you are always getting cheated on chances are you enjoy this ride. Perhaps you find it very scenic and enjoyable to be on but the long term emotional effects of being cheated on are not good. You may not be able to control a cheating man but you have full control over whether you stay with him or go. Men who cheat often put more time into their lives than the relationship. They are not consistent and often times very inconsistent in other areas of their lives as well. The only solution to this problem is to allow people to silently earn your trust and not receive it on blind faith. At the end of the day you have to protect your heart and look out for your best interest. You teach others how to treat you by the way you treat yourself.

6. Your friends constantly try to play match maker with you.

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The only reason your friends will try to “constantly” hook you up with people is for one of three reasons:

1. Your mother is paying them under the table to introduce you to the guys she has background checked on her extensive Tinder and E-Harmony search for your husband.

2. You have been single for as long as they have known you and there is a silent bet going on about whether you are gay or straight. No one wants to come out and ask so they just monitor and watch to see your Instagram #MCM (Male Crush Monday) to #WCW (Women Crush wednesday)  ratio and hook you up according to that.

3. You keep dating nothing but horrible d-bags.

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If any of these things apply to you especially paying majority of the attention to #3  this is a sign you probably should ask them what they think of your taste in men. If you are not happy these people can remind you of the truth you may be purposely avoiding. They remember all the stories good and bad and can help you out the most.

 

7. You stay in bad relationships because you are tired of starting over.

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There was once a time I was a time over quality kind of gal. I think every woman goes through this phase at least once in her life. This happens when you reminisce more than you actually experience true happiness in your relationships. Starting over doesn’t mean you have failed or that you have to start all over again. There is a key difference and that is you are approaching the dating game with even more knowledge and confidence than before.  You know what doesn’t work for you and from you with others. This allows you to learn, grow and be more successful in the future. If anything it is a great thing. Staying in a bad relationship is not worth the pain and turmoil. If you feel you are dating an emotionally dead man respect your future enough to make it better by leaving. You can and WILL do better.

7 Ways to make your Relationship Beautiful

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1. FOCUS ON HIS PROS ALONE.
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Who doesn’t have crappy flaws though? We all do and we just have to live with them right? I mean unless you have money for cosmetic surgery and hypnotherapy…then I guess you don’t. For the rest of us commoners we must realize we are perfectly imperfect. Its always best to shine a light on the qualities you love about your spouse. Trust me they already know what’s wrong with them. Your job is to highlight the good in them to improve their Kanyesteem. This will make a man feel ten feet tall around you.

2. PICK YOUR BATTLES.
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Him leaving the toilet seat up is not a huge problem commes des fak down. All you have to do is calmly lower it and handle your business. Sure its annoying but I know you must have your little habits too that he lets slide. Picking your battles is so important because no one likes fighting everyday with the one who is suppose to protect and love them.

3. TREAT HIM LIKE A FRIEND.
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Would you be mean and jealous of your friend? Do you treat your friends with respect and love? If so, your partner deserves that much too. Would you go through your friends purse or phone? You would go through your friends purse or phone unless you were a thief or weirdo. The same courtesy should be given to your boo. Friends laugh, talk and support one another. Make your man your friend and watch love blossom.

4. EXPRESS YOUR LOVE DAILY.
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Love is kind and love is patient. Love keeps no record of wrong. Love is the most powerful emotion of all. It is the only force that can literally wipe out hate entirely. Deciding to say and do more loving things to your man will make you and him feel better.

5. TALK THINGS OUT.
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Never go to bed or work angry. One will ruin your dreams the other your level of productivity. Learn to talk things out, but more importantly be willing to LISTEN. Anger is just hurt in disguise. Don’t take things to heart all the time and be willing to forgive and let go of resentment.

6. SAY THANK YOU.
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Going all the way back to your precious childhood your mother taught you how to use your magic words. Thank you is such a simple two word phrase that can do wonders for your love life. When is the last time you said “Thank You”? If he picks you up everyday after school or work show him some appreciation. Don’t get mad he’s late sometimes that is a spirit of ungratefulness. Traffic happens and sometimes you have to wait. No matter whether it is a big or small gesture of kindness, letting your love know you appreciate it is a huge factor for his happiness with you.

7. BE PASSIONATE.
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Remember when you first seen him across the room. The way you felt the first time you kissed or made love? The woman you were then was the whole reason he fell so hard for you. You smiled more and laughed making him feel drawn to you. You didn’t act crazy and you really did excite him in the most passionate way. If right now tjings are dull or shakey get back to basics. Bring the passion back to your relationship. Men are not built to tell you they want laid back fun Ashley back. They wouldn’t want to piss you off. Trust that inside they miss the old you. If you can admit you changed, just take it back a bit and watch all the joy return to your relationship. Its worth a try.

Written By: Natosh Monroe
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8 Ways to boost your Kanyesteem

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1. LOVE THE $&*! OUT OF YOURSELF.

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At the end of the day you have to love you some YOU. When a man loves you how does he act? He puts you first, tells you that you’re beautiful, spoils you and makes time for you. These are things you should be doing for yourself everyday. It is normal and healthy to love yourself. It’s the first step to attracting others to love you the same way.

2. BECOME MORE PASSIONATE.

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Kanye is extremely passionate about his abilities and skills as a musician.  The way he lights up on camera when asked about his music oozes of passion and excitement. If there is something you love gush about it-DONT BE SHY. Live life in full passion mode and dive into the things you love.

3. ALWAYS BE WELL DRESSED.

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With the exception of the leather skirt (sorry Yeezy I adore you but I wasn’t loving the St Pattys couture) Kanye dresses amazing all the time. He cares what he looks like and embraces fashion with total respect. Find what looks great on you and rock it with full confidence. As Tom Ford says, “Being well dressed is a form of good manners”.

4. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH
OTHER SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE.

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Have you ever seen father Kanye running about with non movers or shakers? The answer is: Or Nah. Surround yourself with people going places other than Liv Nightclub every weekend. Talk to people who push and motivate you, if not through words through action.

5. REALIZE WHEN YOU MESS UP AND BE HUMBLE ENOUGH TO APOLOGIZE.

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The thing I love about Kanye is that when he is wrong he can apologize. Self-esteem is not just about treating yourself like gold, its about respecting the self-esteem of others. Insecure people hurt others and feel unwilling to apologize. Someone with Kanyesteem will apologize with no issue.

6. OVERCOME ALL OBSTACLES.

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Whether you were raised with one parent in the hood or had to lose a loved one and be expected to continue being great-know that Mr West did it all. His past was no perfect and neither were his humilating public debacles. That did not matter he still overcame it all with time. Bad things happen to us all. Next time you are down just remember Kanye could do it and so can you.

7. STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE.
8. NEVER LET ANYONE TELL YOU NOTHING.

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There will be times you will be in the minority when it comes to doing the right thing. You will be falsely accused and dragged for things you didn’t even do. People will come against you and the feeling to run will come upon you. STAND UP AND FIGHT BACK. Kanye doesn’t run and he refuses to be robbed of his kudos. You are the captain of your ship and if you have to walk alone, do it confidently. It’s experiences like this that build your Kanyesteem.

Written By: Natosh Monroe
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Are you giving it up too quickly?

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Women are more emotional than men this is a fact. Sure we can all name a woman who has become great at keeping her emotions in check, but majority rules. Men have his incredible ability to be able to hide their emotions much better than we can. Whether this is good or bad is not the focal point of this discussion. What is the point is that understanding how we differ greatly affects the topic of this article-Are you giving it up to quickly?

Do you hook up with guys within the first week or day of meeting them?

Do you feel easily pressured into having sex often with new guys?

Do you consider vacation sex with multiple men to be null and void because its off familiar territory?

Do you constantly find men giving you the cold shoulder after they have sex with you?

If you answered yes, to any if the above questions you are definitely giving up your cookies too easily. I am far from a prude and don’t feel I know the number of days you should place on waiting. What I do know is it should always be based on the healthy factors. What are these healthy factors you ask? They are simply logical and mature reasons for having sex with a man. They are not completely based on emotion alone and save you from being treated like a whore.

1.You know him well enough and feel comfortable with him.
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If you dont know where he lives, what his real full name is or anything real about him….ugh…why are you taking off your clothes again? Unless you get off on one night stands and stranger danger sex, at least get to know if he likes Starburst or Skittles? Boxers or Briefs? Like there is no rush girl. Get to know who this guy is.

2.You have protection and have discussed each others sexual history to know neither of you will become infected or terminally ill as a result.
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AIDS and all forms of STDs/ STIs are serious business. Call me a debby downer or prude but catching anything should be scary to you. Your health and life matters. Never sleep with a man unprotected or feel too shy to ask when he last had a checkup. If this makes you uncomfortable you shouldn’t be having sex anyways. It’s worth your time to know where he has been, if he can’t fess up drop his butt asap.

3. You have decided to date each other exclusively or get married.
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The best sex is the one you have with the one you love. I believe most people can agree to that. When a man is serious about you he shows it in his actions, not just his words. Let him court you like a lady and decide to make things more serious before hooking up. If you are cool with bo strings attached it is your decision. If you want a relationship patience is a virtue.

4. You are ready, have no worries about him disappearing and want to become physically closer as a couple.
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When you are ready you will know the time is right. If you even for one second have the fear he will leave something about intimacy feels premature to you. Listen to your own intuition and wait a bit longer. Men can easily separate sex and love, women…ah..not so much.

5. You are not being forced into any demeaning sexual activity that makes you feel embarrassed, scared or uncomfortable.
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If you are being asked to do sexual things while being filmed or are being talked into having sex with all his friends this is dangerous and a huge NO. Before you assume thats common sense take a look at WSHH and you will see why I felt the need to bring that message home for the young ones. If he is in any way trying to force you to do anything that you find creepy, scary or downright nasty scream “PINEAPPLES!!” grab your Chanel bag and run out of that place. Ain’t nobody got time for that!

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How to date a Successful Woman

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Most men can agree that to find a woman who is beautiful, smart, down to earth and successful is a blessing. We are attracted to those we find positive and doing great things in their lives. It’s embedded in us to want more and to be around people who do as well. This may not apply to everyone you know but if you are reading this article it certainly applies to you. So how do you date a woman who is driven, interesting and career focused anyways? We have the answers! It’s not nearly as hard as you may think so no need to feel super intimidated if you do not have all your ducks in a row. If you are working on yourself or have already achieved a level of success and are ready for love, we are going to help you prepare for that future wife.

1. Be Successful at what you do.
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Like successful men, successful women want a partner that shares the same values, mindset and work ethic they do. It’s not about who earns the most at all for most women. What matters is you have realistic goals you have put into action. Successful women want a man that understands why she goes so hard and one whom she too can be inspired by. Show her that you too have dreams and aspirations by making them into a reality. You should both motivate and inspire one another every day.

2. Be supportive of her dreams and aspirations.
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If you have a woman in your life that has decided to go into business for herself, go back to school or change careers your support will be extremely important. Sure she is self reliant and quite capable of motivating herself, but a thoughtful word of encouragement can go a long way. Let her know even if she fails that you will always be there to support her 100%. Knowing your man is in your corner makes the rough times so much smoother.

3. Understand that she isn’t interested in getting pregnant at the beginning or height of her career.
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I know how as men get older and more financially stable they yearn for marriage and children. Women do as well, but not as soon as their careers take off. This is a very stressful demand to place on a career driven woman while she is still building her brand from the ground up. It certainly is not all about her but be considerate that it will slow her down. Be patient and mutually agree on a time that makes you both happy. Afterall, it is she who has to feel the painful contractions and take the year off of work-not you.

4. Do not become jealous of the time she puts into earning a living.
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Have you ever dated a woman who acted extra needy and like a Stage 4 Clinger? Well, chances are you were her main focus not her work or self. As sweet as that sounds in the beginning, over time it can become downright overwhelming. The successful woman will not have the time to play needy girlfriend role at all. Chances are between the time she creates to spend with you and work, she has little left for a much needed manicure. Never make her feel bad for trying to improve her life. If she is spending time with you on weekends and keeping in touch during the day-she cares about you. Show her that you appreciate this by being understanding.

5. Keep fights and petty arguments far away from your relationship.
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There are few successful women that will openly bitch about their stress levels. They may open up to you if they love you but in the beginning many will have a poker face. When you argue or fight with a woman, it affects EVERYTHING she does for the rest of the day. In more severe cases where the argument is unresolved it can affect her week. As a man who works hard you know how important peace and positivity is to your well-being. A woman who works hard wants love and happiness in her relationship,  not stress.

6. Be her sweet escape from work.

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When two ambitious people come together the magic they create when together is nothing short of beautiful to witness. Both of your days may be filled with hundreds of emails, clients, meetings and business deals. The time you spend together should feel like the sweet escape from it all. The arms you can run to that remind you it will be alright. Plan fun things you both can do together and make your dates enjoyable.

7. Shower her with love and affection.
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Women who are successful are normally responsible for many other people besides themselves. They are constantly depended on, called on and bombarded with questions 24 hours a day. In this position, it is easy to feel unappreciated and loved. If she is a public figure she gets daily hate mail and has to shake it off to not go crazy. You telling her she is beautiful and loved can turn a bad day completely around for the better. Speak life over her each day and watch her respect and appreciation for you soar to greater heights.

8. Do not put down yourself with her ever.
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It may make you insecure at times if your lady’s career is moving at a more rapid pace then yours. Maybe you notice how much attention she gets and it makes you feel invisible when with her. No matter what never express insecure behaviour. If she is with you she thinks the world if you. There is something about you that she connects with and she thinks you are good enough. Confidence in both men and women is sexy. Have you ever seen an unattractive man will a bombshell?  Yea we all have! The reason is he had swagger and confidence which made her see him as the sexiest man alive. That is honestly all it takes.

9. Do not make her feel guilty for having many supporters, fans or admirers.
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If your girlfriend is a model, celebrity, Top CEO, successful business owner or socialite she will be popular. People will recognize her everywhere she goes and that is not her fault. If anything it speaks volumes about her genius ability to market herself. As long as she is not flirting with men around you, allow her to engage her audience. Never taunt or belittle her fans because they help her to live a comfortable lifestyle you may benefit from as well.

10. Tell her you are proud of her accomplishments and give her your honest opinion at all times.
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A little secret about women is we could get 1,000,000 compliments in a day and the only one that will matter is the one we get from the man we love. We believe it, cherish it and it lights up our lives. Never assume she is hearing it enough and hold back. Tell her how proud you are of her accomplishments and that you are proud of her. Leave a note encouraging her to keep going and that you believe in her ability to do a great job. These things are what matter most to career focused women.

All of the points listed can easily be flipped and applied to how to date a successful man. Like attracts like. Those who aim for more in life have to manage more responsibilities and must prioritize. Being a loving, sweet and understanding partner will be the perfect balance to her life. Every successful woman craves the love of a man who gets her. To be that man all it takes is consistency and love.

Written By: Natosh Monroe

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What his actions reveal that his mouth will never

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I’ve come to realize with age and experience men communicate much differently than women. They keep it simple, direct and usually stay away from over thinking like us women do.
Women for the most part tend to be very expressive, detailed and tend to over analyze most things. With these differences between us existing communication can at times can be difficult. I feel trying to force a man who is not as verbally expressive to be is a waste of time. Its like your boyfriend telling you to not detail your stories or say you love him as much. You would probably feel insulted and confused because this is who you are and feel most comfortable being. This article is all about understanding the man who lives by the saying, “Actions speak louder than words”. Here are a few things a man’s actions are telling you that his mouth may never.

Him: “I am listening to every word you say because I find you interesting

If you tell your hubby or the guy your dating you have an interview or special event on say a Monday and he without you reminding him asks you how it went the day of-he cares about you. If he can hardly remember where he put his car keys or that it’s Mother’s Day but remembers your charity Volleyball game he felt it was important. He does care about you and you are on his mind when you do not speak.

Him: “I want you to tell me how handsome you think I am”

When your man gets a haircut, buys flashy new clothing when he usually dresses like a hobo, he wants to feel man pretty. Sure he will tell you you’re the pretty one and insist he is average in comparison but a little compliment is appreciated. These men don’t spend hours in the gym doing it just for the Vine. They do it to build their self-esteem and to impress us. Believe it or not but men get insecure too. Reassuring him you think he is still the hottest man in the world to you won’t go unoticed.


Him: “I’m going through a lot right now and the fact I am a man and should be further in life but am not frustrates me. I don’t need you to fix it. Just show me you believe in my ability to fix it myself”

Men do have a lot of pressure placed on them in our society even way before the independent woman was celebrated. Back in the day women stayed home while men hunted or made the money. Times have not changed and they are still expected to do the same and never complain while doing it. If your man shows signs of frustration or hidden stress the best thing you can do is be supportive and patient. Don’t get angry he is not in the mood to do much other than watch tv and eat in silence. Some days are harder than others. Reassuring him that you love him and know he can handle whatever it is, is what he needs most.

Him: “I am really feeling you. I definitely want to have sex with you one day. I like that you aren’t too easy the challenge kinda turns me on even more.”

Every guy wants some trim. Even if he says he doesnt Maury’s lie detector test determined that was a lie. It’s human nature to want something you find attractive that you can not have. I dont believe giving it up quickly for women in open relationships are a good idea. The reason is because you dont know his sexual history and emotions get in the way. You begin expecting him to be monogamous when he never indicated that was his desire. If you desire a long term relationship a few months won’t kill you to wait. Most men won’t tell you to make them wait hell no! Lol But if he is still pursuing you months later he will know you much more and his intentions by then will show through his actions.

Him: “Im not ready or willing to maintain a relationship with you. I dont mind a little hookup here and there but please enough of this US chatter”

No man with an ounce of heart or common sense will say this. However 99.9% of them will boldly express it in their actions. If he does not speak about the future-he doesn’t see you in it. If he is not consistent with you, he doesn’t feel you are worth the effort. If he is open to sex but closed to commitment, he isn’t trying to make you his wife at all. Sounds simple but way too many women complicate this.

Him: “I care about you very much. I do my best to make you feel happy with me and all I need in return even if I may not get it right all the time is to feel appreciated”

If you are a perfectionist or expecting day one honeymoon magic for the rest of your days-this one is for you. Think of your man as a plant and your words as water. Everytime you say “thank you”, ” I really appreciate you doing that for me” or “I love it” the plant grows. Everytime you criticize or insult it, it withers and dies. What you speak over a man becomes your reality with enough repetition. If he calls or texts you regularly, spends time with you even though you live far away and helps you out-make him feel appreciated. Guys are not really going to bitch about this to you but when they begin to tune you out, my advice will make sense. It certainly goes both ways but you can positively ignite change in a man by first changing yourself.

This is just a short list that I will follow up with a Part Two. At the end of the day Actions do speak louder than words. Realize when your man is trying his best or worst and respond accordingly. Your emotional well being matters. Taking the time to comprehend a man’s way of communicating is worth the time and effort if you want to improve your relationship.

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Written by: Natosh Monroe

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