Most men can agree that to find a woman who is beautiful, smart, down to earth and successful is a blessing. We are attracted to those we find positive and doing great things in their lives. It’s embedded in us to want more and to be around people who do as well. This may not apply to everyone you know but if you are reading this article it certainly applies to you. So how do you date a woman who is driven, interesting and career focused anyways? We have the answers! It’s not nearly as hard as you may think so no need to feel super intimidated if you do not have all your ducks in a row. If you are working on yourself or have already achieved a level of success and are ready for love, we are going to help you prepare for that future wife.
1. Be Successful at what you do.
Like successful men, successful women want a partner that shares the same values, mindset and work ethic they do. It’s not about who earns the most at all for most women. What matters is you have realistic goals you have put into action. Successful women want a man that understands why she goes so hard and one whom she too can be inspired by. Show her that you too have dreams and aspirations by making them into a reality. You should both motivate and inspire one another every day.
2. Be supportive of her dreams and aspirations.
If you have a woman in your life that has decided to go into business for herself, go back to school or change careers your support will be extremely important. Sure she is self reliant and quite capable of motivating herself, but a thoughtful word of encouragement can go a long way. Let her know even if she fails that you will always be there to support her 100%. Knowing your man is in your corner makes the rough times so much smoother.
3. Understand that she isn’t interested in getting pregnant at the beginning or height of her career.
I know how as men get older and more financially stable they yearn for marriage and children. Women do as well, but not as soon as their careers take off. This is a very stressful demand to place on a career driven woman while she is still building her brand from the ground up. It certainly is not all about her but be considerate that it will slow her down. Be patient and mutually agree on a time that makes you both happy. Afterall, it is she who has to feel the painful contractions and take the year off of work-not you.
4. Do not become jealous of the time she puts into earning a living.
Have you ever dated a woman who acted extra needy and like a Stage 4 Clinger? Well, chances are you were her main focus not her work or self. As sweet as that sounds in the beginning, over time it can become downright overwhelming. The successful woman will not have the time to play needy girlfriend role at all. Chances are between the time she creates to spend with you and work, she has little left for a much needed manicure. Never make her feel bad for trying to improve her life. If she is spending time with you on weekends and keeping in touch during the day-she cares about you. Show her that you appreciate this by being understanding.
5. Keep fights and petty arguments far away from your relationship.
There are few successful women that will openly bitch about their stress levels. They may open up to you if they love you but in the beginning many will have a poker face. When you argue or fight with a woman, it affects EVERYTHING she does for the rest of the day. In more severe cases where the argument is unresolved it can affect her week. As a man who works hard you know how important peace and positivity is to your well-being. A woman who works hard wants love and happiness in her relationship, not stress.
6. Be her sweet escape from work.
When two ambitious people come together the magic they create when together is nothing short of beautiful to witness. Both of your days may be filled with hundreds of emails, clients, meetings and business deals. The time you spend together should feel like the sweet escape from it all. The arms you can run to that remind you it will be alright. Plan fun things you both can do together and make your dates enjoyable.
7. Shower her with love and affection.
Women who are successful are normally responsible for many other people besides themselves. They are constantly depended on, called on and bombarded with questions 24 hours a day. In this position, it is easy to feel unappreciated and loved. If she is a public figure she gets daily hate mail and has to shake it off to not go crazy. You telling her she is beautiful and loved can turn a bad day completely around for the better. Speak life over her each day and watch her respect and appreciation for you soar to greater heights.
8. Do not put down yourself with her ever.
It may make you insecure at times if your lady’s career is moving at a more rapid pace then yours. Maybe you notice how much attention she gets and it makes you feel invisible when with her. No matter what never express insecure behaviour. If she is with you she thinks the world if you. There is something about you that she connects with and she thinks you are good enough. Confidence in both men and women is sexy. Have you ever seen an unattractive man will a bombshell? Yea we all have! The reason is he had swagger and confidence which made her see him as the sexiest man alive. That is honestly all it takes.
9. Do not make her feel guilty for having many supporters, fans or admirers.
If your girlfriend is a model, celebrity, Top CEO, successful business owner or socialite she will be popular. People will recognize her everywhere she goes and that is not her fault. If anything it speaks volumes about her genius ability to market herself. As long as she is not flirting with men around you, allow her to engage her audience. Never taunt or belittle her fans because they help her to live a comfortable lifestyle you may benefit from as well.
10. Tell her you are proud of her accomplishments and give her your honest opinion at all times.
A little secret about women is we could get 1,000,000 compliments in a day and the only one that will matter is the one we get from the man we love. We believe it, cherish it and it lights up our lives. Never assume she is hearing it enough and hold back. Tell her how proud you are of her accomplishments and that you are proud of her. Leave a note encouraging her to keep going and that you believe in her ability to do a great job. These things are what matter most to career focused women.
All of the points listed can easily be flipped and applied to how to date a successful man. Like attracts like. Those who aim for more in life have to manage more responsibilities and must prioritize. Being a loving, sweet and understanding partner will be the perfect balance to her life. Every successful woman craves the love of a man who gets her. To be that man all it takes is consistency and love.
Written By: Natosh Monroe
♥ Woman Reloaded