Month: March 2014

Are you TOO Nice?

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Do you find yourself taking care of others and feeling frustrated? Do you  worry about how others are going to make it if you do not help them? Do you feel  drained by how much you do for others?

If you answered yes to those questions, you might be a codependent. My  definition of a codependent is when you take care of others at the expense of  yourself. This topic was written about extensively by Melody Beattie in the book  Codependent No More and if you want a real thorough look at the topic you should  pick up the book.

I find there is a fine line between helping another and co-dependence. Here is  a quick way to tell the difference: Co-dependence will leave you drained,  frustrated and angry; while helping for helping sake will lead you to feel  uplifted. Here are some other clues to see if you are codependent:

• You have resentment that the person you are helping should be doing more  for themselves.

• You blame them for not being different, “after all that I have done.”

• You worry about others more than they worry about themselves.

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you might be engaging in  co dependence. If so, start by asking yourself the following questions when you  consider taking care of someone else:

1. What do I need?

2. What is MY heart’s desire?

3. How can I be helpful to another and not neglect myself in the process?

4. What do I get out of being codependent?

These questions are important, because they can help you get back in touch  with your needs and wants rather than focusing on what someone else needs and  wants. Truthfully, you can only take care of yourself, not anyone else. During  this process you might find you feel a strong pull to help the other person.  Allow yourself to hold back and give the other person an opportunity to do it  for themselves (even if it might lead to “failure”). There is a greater  satisfaction completing a task (no matter the results) themselves as opposed to  someone else doing it for them.

My motto is, “I have to be good to myself, so I can be helpful to another.”  Is this selfish? I don’t think so. Is it emotionally healthy? I think yes. The  lesson is to take care of myself and allow others to take care of  themselves.

Kim McLaughlin, MA is a licensed counselor and a motivational coach. She  specializes in counseling people with binge eating, emotional eating and eating  disorders. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor.

Kim McLaughlin, MA has been identified as writing one of the Top 50 Blogs  about Emotional Eating by the Institute on Emotional Eating. Sign up for her  free Special Report: Top Strategies to End Binge Eating here or visit her  website at http://www.feedyoursoulunlimited.com.

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10 Signs you want out your Relationship

1.You answer late to his texts.
The truth is your texting response speed is a dead giveaway about how much you care. If you see a message and feel no urge to respond until you are bored, you don’t like the guy as much as you used to.

2. You pretend to be on your period.
If you blame old “Aunt Flow” for your bitch modes and inability to have sex this is a very passive aggressive way to deal with your partner. When the passion is gone and anger keeps rising that is a sign you want out.

3. You don’t get mad at him anymore.
One of the strongest signs a woman doesn’t want or care about you anymore is when she lets you say and do whatever you want. She won’t stop you from going out, won’t be upset you forgot the kids at Walmart and will not care you forgot to call her back. She doesn’t care about your slip ups because she has formulated a plan to leave very soon. Either that or she has your replacement around already.

4. You flirt back with other guys.
We all flirt to an extent but hard core flirting with sexual or inappropriate tones is going overboard. If you are turning it up a notch and giving other guys the time of day, you are slipping away from your relationship.

5. You publicly shared your bbm pin.
Its common sense that if you place your bbm on social media it is seen as a public invitation for randoms to add you. If you know deep down you wanted this to happen, in hopes a cute guy would, you are checking out emotionally.

6. You hid your Facebook relationship status.
Not wanting others in your business is fine and quite healthy. However, hiding your relationship status from the public only means you want to look single and available to other singles. When you are happy with you partner you have nothing to hide.

7. You feel held back from better things.
Does being with your man make you feel stuck?  Do you look at him and believe you have really settled and could do so much better? If the real answer is ‘YES’ you are not in love with that man.

8. You have fallen out of love.
Being in love is a strong enough feeling that you definitely know when it’s happening. If you without a doubt know you are not in love with a man anymore why string him along? Afraid you will lose his support and help? If so you are thinking selfishly and creating negativity around your blessings. If you don’t want anyone to string you along don’t do it to others.

9.You are only staying for the kids.
If you are literally only staying with a man for the sake of the children you have together in the long run you are not helping them at all. Divorces and seperations hurt at any age and realizing your parents dislike each other the more you age is not comforting either. A mother needs to be happy in order to be a good mother. If you are always sad,  unhappy and depressed it will be felt by the children. Is it worth it?

10. You wait anxiously for the lease on your apartment to be up so you can move out.
So you both live together and to be quite honest you could never afford this place alone. You don’t want to move and you also don’t want to live with him. The situation is sticky but cohabiting miserably isn’t worth the daily stress.

Many of the signs listed can be solved through better forms of communication. Leaving the relationship isn’t always necessary and problems can be mended if you both really want them to be. If you are experiencing signs of lost love, address your emotions and really decide if you should stay or go. Men can be difficult but no one deserves to be mistreated or cheated on.

Written By: Natosh Monroe
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6 Reasons you should not Chase a Man

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1. In order to chase something it must be trying to escape you. Men in love don’t try to escape.

To chase a man takes effort, force and loads of desperation. Sometimes you can end up chasing and not even realize until you’re drunk on World Star crying in a video you didn’t realize you uploaded. If a man is trying to leave or even thinking about it-LET HIM. I don’t care how many years you have been together. Holding on tighter won’t convince him to stay. Chances are he thinks it’s greener out there. Let him face the reality of dating in 2014. There is a 10/10 chance he will contact you again if you are nonchalant about it. Whether you want him back is up to you. Just don’t block the door you are not a barcade, you are a woman act like it.

2. Men are not careers. You chase success, money and your drinks only.

If you are self made and career driven you are used to taking control. You probably even send the “Good Morning beautiful” texts first 98% of the time. Men are not careers and the energy needs to change when dealing with them. It works when you go hard and fearlessly after career goals but not so easy with humans. The rule is chase success,  money and drinks only.

3. Think of a guy who REALLY likes you. Did you have to do any special tricks to make that happen? Answer: Nope.

When you met him he did most of the chasing and it was enjoyable. You let him take the lead while letting him know it was appreciated and worth the effort. Why change the bluueprint now? All men need is to know you appreciate their efforts and reassurance the effort isn’t going unoticed-that’s it. Just being sweet and respectful is all a lady must do. Extra crazy lengths to get his love are just not worth it.

4. Self Respect includes knowing when to let go and when you have outgrown a situation that no longer serves you.

I had to literally train myself to not feel guilty or bad when it came to releasing useless people from my life. If I knew them for years Id let them get away with murder. Today I have stopped the madness and have learned when to let go. If your relationship is miserable for him or yourself let go. If he doesn’t care to work it out, neither should you. It takes two to overcome rough patches. If you feel like you are the only one trying it’s a sign he has emotionally checked out.

5. He is most likely laughing about your stage four clinger ways with his friends which will eventually ruin your reputation with people you don’t even know-not worth it.

You know when a guy keeps messaging you retarded things you show your friends and laugh. We all do it and that’s just a fact. Do you really want his friends or God forbid new girl to see your emotional texts? Avoid the humiliation and don’t give him that pleasure. Sometimes guys will respond just to keep the ego inflated by your thirst for their attention. He doesn’t want you but he is flattered by your obsession with him in small doses. You are better than that.

6. If a guy wants you he will be giving you his time, love and attention without the need to fight for it. You’re not in the WWF relax ma’.

If when you met he knew how to call and treat you right don’t assume he forgot now. He knows very well how to treat you right he just doesn’t care or see the benefit anymore. Denying this cold hard truth isn’t going to help you in anyway. Accepting that people change and new things get rearranged is much more uplifting. If you could attract him you can attract another man. If he was good looking, you have the power to pull another handsome pants. If he was well to do, something about you appeals to men who are succeeding. Dont underestimate your power to attract better quality men. If you could swim once, you can swim again. Don’t fear the unchartered waters, you can do this.

Written By: Natosh Monroe

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6 Ways to attract a Good Man

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1. BE A GOOD WOMAN.

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Sounds too easy right? Must be some kind of Pyramid scheme right? No. it is that simple. When you are a good woman you attract good men. Another key ingredient in this is knowing who deserves your time and who does not. The way to know this is to look at who reminds you of yourself when it comes to the way you love. It is easier to be with someone who expresses love the same way you do.

2.HAVE A LIFE OF YOUR OWN.

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Women who have lives just don’t have enough time to chase or notice men not putting in full effort to court them. You have many things to do with your time and are very happy with your life. Good men love women who are passionate about something other than being in their faces 24/7. What do you spend your time doing? How many goals are you actively pursuing as we speak? You should always do things to make yourself feel great about living outside of a relationship. This will add a healthy balance to any relationship you decide to enter in the future.

3.BE MYSTERIOUS.

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Are you an open book? Do you post every good, bad and ugly thing that happens in your life to social media? There is something very alluring and magnetic about a woman who can maintain a little mystery. Whether it be the limit you place on the things you share online or the information you share with others, it makes you mysterious. This doesn’t mean you have to hide anything, it means you don’t feel the need to expose every beautiful chapter of your life to whoever is willing to listen. Men have no interest in playing therapist, save your childhood trauma stories for your journal and therapist. Try keeping a little to the imagination and to the mind to think about. I am no prude so I won’t tell you how to dress but be willing to switch it up sometimes. ;)

4. HAVE SELF CONFIDENCE.

Strong-confident-womanEveryday you should do things to feel more beautiful, empowered and capable. Self confidence shows up in your words, actions and the way you carry yourself. Sometimes we have to fake it until we make it to really feel like we have what it takes to make it. Work on telling yourself positive things and using words of affirmation to condition your mind to succeed and feel more confident. It takes time but it will eventually happen for you.

 

5. BE HAPPY.

imagesHappiness is not just about yelling Bingo. To be happy means you are choosing to focus your mind on the good stuff going on in your life. This doesn’t mean things are perfect or moving without occasional hitches, it means you focus on the fact it is MOVING. What you choose to focus on expands and will effective your state of mind for the better or worse. When you decide to focus on all the great things that the future holds for you and how much you have to look forward to happiness will find you.

6. INTRODUCE HIM TO YOUR BRAIN, BEFORE YOUR BODY.

black-woman-readingSex is something most adults really enjoy and for good reason. However, nothing could feel worse than thinking a relationship is going *thumbs up  x fist pump* and giving it up to only be forgotten. Ouch. Not the most rewarding position to be in. All men eventually want some, but it is always in your full control when and if it happens. Let him get to know who you are as woman first. See if you share any real interests or values. I mean could you live with yourself to know you slept with a guy who thinks Beyonce’s Dangerously In Love album sucked? Or someone who thinks Nutella is gross?…These are things you need to know upfront before you wake up beside a Beyonce Nazi Nutella deprived hater. Don’t let it be you girl!

Written By: Natosh Monroe

7 Signs you are choosing the wrong men

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1. You think all men are the same.

I will be the first to admit to admit that there was once a time I actually felt this way. I will also add I was a teenager and had a very limited dating pool to base my views on. Preconceived  notions are a hell of a thing that can really hinder your chances of meeting a great man. Think of it this way: Let’s say I think all black people are criminals and not to be trusted. (Disclaimer: I am black *smile* and do not believe this) Now let’s say I am the hiring manager at Wells Fargo and I have to interview a candidate with an impressive resume and a graduate of Yale. I think the candidate is amazing on paper and set up an interview to meet this guy. When he arrives I am completely shocked because he is black and I don’t trust any black people based on what I felt before meeting him. With a mindset like this whether he could do wonders in the available position or not, I am going to be on guard waiting for him to mess up because I-not HIM, expect the worst. You get what you expect through the law of attraction. If you want better men you must first believe better men exist. If you do not i can guarantee you will continue to meet loads of frogs until you change your negative perspective.

 

2. You date physically abusive men.

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Domestic violence is no laughing matter and a very serious criminal offense. Many women and some men suffer in silence at the hands of controlling abusive partners. If you are  or have been in many abusive relationships, there is a high chance you may be making excuses for toxic men. When they show signs of jealousy you may misinterpret that as them simply caring for you deeply. Many abusers keep their victims close by crying afterwards or blaming external forces for their inability to change, playing on the heartstrings of overly compassionate victims. If you are in an abusive relationship there is help for you. Many shelters are available for women who are looking to escape violent living conditions. If this continues to happen to you, you need to begin evaluating the standards you have set in your personal relationships and adjust them accordingly.

 

3. You have never had a man send you flowers.

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I once had a girl tell me she has never had a guy open a car door for her while on a date or in general. This was so abnormal to me because I thought that was a normal thing all men I dated did. I then realized that not all men are that polite to women they date and that these insensitive men still exist. Whether it be flowers, a thoughtful card or just a ride home from work-good men do these things to make their women feel special. If you are always the one going out of your way to make a man feel loved, you are doing way too much. It should always be a nice and fair give and take; a beautiful and warm natural flow of affection between the two of you.

 

4. You cry more than you smile in your relationships.

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A healthy relationship will always make you feel good about yourself. You will have times that arguments will happen but this should never make you feel like crap for days. If the guy you are dating doesn’t care to make up with you before the end of the night r after a 24 hour cool down period, he may be more into himself than the relationship. Mature and well balanced men will calmly address any issue you two have because he wants to see you happy. Pain is not love and neither is having fights non stop. If this is happening to you it’s time you work on you. We can not change anyone faster than we can ourselves. Be honest with yourself about how you contribute to the fights and how you can react differently next time. Sometimes taking a step back can give you enough time to think through your own thoughts to avoid saying something you will regret.

 

5. Every guy you have ever dated cheated on you.

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The only thing I can say about this is that your trust is misplaced and you have completely fired your own God given “Women’s Intuition”. We all were born with shit talk detectors and know when we are being taken for a ride. If you are always getting cheated on chances are you enjoy this ride. Perhaps you find it very scenic and enjoyable to be on but the long term emotional effects of being cheated on are not good. You may not be able to control a cheating man but you have full control over whether you stay with him or go. Men who cheat often put more time into their lives than the relationship. They are not consistent and often times very inconsistent in other areas of their lives as well. The only solution to this problem is to allow people to silently earn your trust and not receive it on blind faith. At the end of the day you have to protect your heart and look out for your best interest. You teach others how to treat you by the way you treat yourself.

6. Your friends constantly try to play match maker with you.

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The only reason your friends will try to “constantly” hook you up with people is for one of three reasons:

1. Your mother is paying them under the table to introduce you to the guys she has background checked on her extensive Tinder and E-Harmony search for your husband.

2. You have been single for as long as they have known you and there is a silent bet going on about whether you are gay or straight. No one wants to come out and ask so they just monitor and watch to see your Instagram #MCM (Male Crush Monday) to #WCW (Women Crush wednesday)  ratio and hook you up according to that.

3. You keep dating nothing but horrible d-bags.

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If any of these things apply to you especially paying majority of the attention to #3  this is a sign you probably should ask them what they think of your taste in men. If you are not happy these people can remind you of the truth you may be purposely avoiding. They remember all the stories good and bad and can help you out the most.

 

7. You stay in bad relationships because you are tired of starting over.

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There was once a time I was a time over quality kind of gal. I think every woman goes through this phase at least once in her life. This happens when you reminisce more than you actually experience true happiness in your relationships. Starting over doesn’t mean you have failed or that you have to start all over again. There is a key difference and that is you are approaching the dating game with even more knowledge and confidence than before.  You know what doesn’t work for you and from you with others. This allows you to learn, grow and be more successful in the future. If anything it is a great thing. Staying in a bad relationship is not worth the pain and turmoil. If you feel you are dating an emotionally dead man respect your future enough to make it better by leaving. You can and WILL do better.

8 signs you are a Power Couple

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1. You feel blessed to be his woman.

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When you think about all you have both been through together and how much love you feel for each other, you can’t help but to feel blessed. You know just how lucky you are to have such a loyal and loving man by your side and you wouldn’t trade him for the world.


2. He has told you that you make him better.

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Men are not big on constantly expressing how they feel verbally but if he does tell you this he means it. Women assume good sex and homemade pancakes are all it takes to please a man. The most powerful attraction is how you make him feel about himself when he is with you. The way you make him feel about his own ability to accomplish greater things and to know you support him through it all. This is honestly how simple men are to please. No games, tricks or morse code to crack.

3. You look amazing together.
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Who doesn’t love seeing a couple that looks super hot together? Think Angelina Jolie and Brat Pitt or Beyonce and Jay Z. It’s not even about both being genetically blessed but more comfortable and confident looking together. If you have been told how beautiful of a couple you are this is a sign you exude confidence, love and happiness together.


4. You both know how to apologize.

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This is so HUGE. Have you ever dated a person who was too ignorant to be able to apologize when they were at fault? There is nothing more mature than dating a man or woman who knows how to apologize. There is nothing weak about caring for your partners feelings and being able to point out your own mistakes. It takes two strong individuals to embrace a sincere apology with ease.

5. You both have great careers that are going well.
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One of the top qualities of a power couple are how well they are doing professionally. If you both have great satisfying careers you qualify as a power couple. If you are dating a man who you are supporting completely while you bust your tail-you are not a power couple. Same goes for a man working while his lady shops and watches Keeping up with the Kardashian’s all day. Power couples upgrade one another and each partner is putting in work to build the family empire.


6. You have hilarious enjoyable moments together that make you smile when you remember them.

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Thinking back to your last date, first vacation together and special intimate moments you have so much to smile about. Your partner knows how to make you laugh and feel so good about yourself. Being able to goof around and be yourself is amazing in a relationship. The world is serious enough, if you both can throw caution to the wind when together you have yourself a keeper.

7. You know how to get the best out of him.
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When a woman knows her man we she knows how to easily piss him off if she really wanted to but would prefer to.make him better through words of encouragement. If you dedicate your time and energy to bringing out the best in your man why would he ever stray? If you do it enough he will feel lost without you and look at you like you are magic.

Being the woman who can boldly walk into his dark depressive cave with a warm embrace and light to guide him out with ease is a keeper. I don’t believe in enabling men to complain and stay down when life hits them down. I give that football coach “Get off your ass don’t quit! We don’t quit we get this money and win” kind of pep talk. Hugs and kisses are great too but were dealing with strong brilliant men here not My Little Pony Action figures. If you are his strength when he is weak and visa verse you two are powerful together.

8. You won’t give up on each other no matter what.
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Quitting to me is disgusting. Redirecting and using a new strategy is intelligent. Giving up on a person is hurtful and says a lot about you as well. Some relationships are toxic and this is the wisest form of action to take. If you are dating someone who is committed to being miserable that will corrode your relationship eventually. However, when you know that your man loves you flaws and all you will go harder for the relationship. Having someone who will tell you the truth and be quick to remind you of your own potential when you need to hear it most is a beautiful thing. Sometimes we don’t realize what we have until we find worse. If you have a great man on your team cherish, love and hold onto him tight. Power couples are amazing,  the world needs more of that.

Written By: Natosh Monroe

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7 Things you shouldn’t let distract you from Success

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Distraction and Procrastination are and will always be your worst enemies on the road to riches. Nothing deters a lazer focused mind. Here is a list of things no woman should let stand in the way of her and her most cherished goals in life.

1. THE TV

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My home is quite boring for TV lovers because I deliberately threw out my TV three years ago. It is a money grab that makes you waste valuable time. It costs $30-$80 a month to maintain and gets you no closer to your goals after you switch it off. Why watch people who have followed their dreams all day when you could just get off your tooshkies and be one of them?  If you have time to watch a full season of Pretty little Liars, you have time to make your dreams come true.

2. EXCESSIVE PARTYING

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This does not apply to party promoters,  bartenders, professional hosts or club owners. If you do not fall in any of the following categories excessive partying can really set you back physically and financially. It’s expensive to maintain and does nothing good for your health in the long run. There is nothing wrong with an occasional fun night out, but if you are not where you want to be yet it is a distraction.

3. MONEY

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When you start your business you may not have much money. You may have to eat Ramen noodles on a daily basis to not collapse from malnutrition. This is not too inspiring but most multi nillionaires had to endure this limited meal options to get where they are today. The more you hate the crappy noodles you are eating the more motivated you should become. Don’t allow temporary financial struggles stop you from holding on and forging ahead.

4. YOUR PAST

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There is something I respect so much about women who have had rough or dishonorable past in the eyes of our society yet still aim high. I don’t care if you were an escort, stripper or criminal-YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS just like the rest of us. Don’t let your mistakes based in the little you knew ay the time make you feel ashamed of who you are going to be. If you had a dark childhood same message applies. Commit to being future focused. There is literally nothing you can do to change your past. What you CAN change is how much of block you will allow it to be between you and your money.

5. NAYSAYERS AKA HATERS

If you have ever been disrespected by a hater raise your cellphone and say “Yes Ma’am”. Who hasn’t been dissed,  mocked or hated on by now? Haters are the biggest procrastinators alive. All they do is watch others who intimidate the heck out of them and scream all their insecurities at them in the disguise of insults. The only response to a person like this is an extremely nonchalant “Girl Bye” accompanied with a wave of your feather pen you use to sign cheques. Don’t let nasty mean hateful people drag you into their world. It’s a scary and miserable place to be-just look at them.

6. FEAR

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Fear will hold you back from greatness. It will make you doubt your own skills and ability to succeed. I will confess this much to you I was once scared to go after my dreams too. I was scared people may not like what I had to say or question my credibility to say it. Over the last two years I wrote two books because I always wanted to write. I now have them both edited and will be releasing them for you all soon. When I wrote the first I told myself do another. When you move fearlessly you build up your self confidence. If you love it DO IT!

7. FRENEMIES

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Some people you think are your friends are not. They won’t celebrate you or help you get any further than they are. Should you hate them? No. Just face the facts and surround yourself with better more supportive friends. Be careful who you ask for advice if their life sucks the choices they make do too.

8. COMPETITION

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One of the most annoying things to me are “Statistic Haters” these are the people that miraculously pull numbers out their asses about how stiff your competition is in your field.  They will tell you how many people apply tobthe nursing program in attempts to scare you out of applying or trying. My views on this are “So?….” there is competition in every single industry it’s what ensures great product quality and assortment.  Instead of thinking about the few that make it, convince your mind you will be one of them.

10. TOXIC MEN

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There are loads of amazing,  loving, ambitious men out there. There are also quite a number of douchebags lurking this earth with bad intentions. Getting pregnant before you are ready, entering abusive relationships and dating bad boys can all prevent success for you. You are who you date. So if you think he’s a bum crumb why are you with him again? Be mindful of the men you give a chance and always elevate how much they are contributing to the relationship and whether it is positive or negative.

Written By: Natosh Monroe
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7 Ways to make your Relationship Beautiful

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1. FOCUS ON HIS PROS ALONE.
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Who doesn’t have crappy flaws though? We all do and we just have to live with them right? I mean unless you have money for cosmetic surgery and hypnotherapy…then I guess you don’t. For the rest of us commoners we must realize we are perfectly imperfect. Its always best to shine a light on the qualities you love about your spouse. Trust me they already know what’s wrong with them. Your job is to highlight the good in them to improve their Kanyesteem. This will make a man feel ten feet tall around you.

2. PICK YOUR BATTLES.
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Him leaving the toilet seat up is not a huge problem commes des fak down. All you have to do is calmly lower it and handle your business. Sure its annoying but I know you must have your little habits too that he lets slide. Picking your battles is so important because no one likes fighting everyday with the one who is suppose to protect and love them.

3. TREAT HIM LIKE A FRIEND.
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Would you be mean and jealous of your friend? Do you treat your friends with respect and love? If so, your partner deserves that much too. Would you go through your friends purse or phone? You would go through your friends purse or phone unless you were a thief or weirdo. The same courtesy should be given to your boo. Friends laugh, talk and support one another. Make your man your friend and watch love blossom.

4. EXPRESS YOUR LOVE DAILY.
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Love is kind and love is patient. Love keeps no record of wrong. Love is the most powerful emotion of all. It is the only force that can literally wipe out hate entirely. Deciding to say and do more loving things to your man will make you and him feel better.

5. TALK THINGS OUT.
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Never go to bed or work angry. One will ruin your dreams the other your level of productivity. Learn to talk things out, but more importantly be willing to LISTEN. Anger is just hurt in disguise. Don’t take things to heart all the time and be willing to forgive and let go of resentment.

6. SAY THANK YOU.
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Going all the way back to your precious childhood your mother taught you how to use your magic words. Thank you is such a simple two word phrase that can do wonders for your love life. When is the last time you said “Thank You”? If he picks you up everyday after school or work show him some appreciation. Don’t get mad he’s late sometimes that is a spirit of ungratefulness. Traffic happens and sometimes you have to wait. No matter whether it is a big or small gesture of kindness, letting your love know you appreciate it is a huge factor for his happiness with you.

7. BE PASSIONATE.
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Remember when you first seen him across the room. The way you felt the first time you kissed or made love? The woman you were then was the whole reason he fell so hard for you. You smiled more and laughed making him feel drawn to you. You didn’t act crazy and you really did excite him in the most passionate way. If right now tjings are dull or shakey get back to basics. Bring the passion back to your relationship. Men are not built to tell you they want laid back fun Ashley back. They wouldn’t want to piss you off. Trust that inside they miss the old you. If you can admit you changed, just take it back a bit and watch all the joy return to your relationship. Its worth a try.

Written By: Natosh Monroe
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8 Ways to boost your Kanyesteem

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1. LOVE THE $&*! OUT OF YOURSELF.

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At the end of the day you have to love you some YOU. When a man loves you how does he act? He puts you first, tells you that you’re beautiful, spoils you and makes time for you. These are things you should be doing for yourself everyday. It is normal and healthy to love yourself. It’s the first step to attracting others to love you the same way.

2. BECOME MORE PASSIONATE.

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Kanye is extremely passionate about his abilities and skills as a musician.  The way he lights up on camera when asked about his music oozes of passion and excitement. If there is something you love gush about it-DONT BE SHY. Live life in full passion mode and dive into the things you love.

3. ALWAYS BE WELL DRESSED.

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With the exception of the leather skirt (sorry Yeezy I adore you but I wasn’t loving the St Pattys couture) Kanye dresses amazing all the time. He cares what he looks like and embraces fashion with total respect. Find what looks great on you and rock it with full confidence. As Tom Ford says, “Being well dressed is a form of good manners”.

4. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH
OTHER SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE.

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Have you ever seen father Kanye running about with non movers or shakers? The answer is: Or Nah. Surround yourself with people going places other than Liv Nightclub every weekend. Talk to people who push and motivate you, if not through words through action.

5. REALIZE WHEN YOU MESS UP AND BE HUMBLE ENOUGH TO APOLOGIZE.

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The thing I love about Kanye is that when he is wrong he can apologize. Self-esteem is not just about treating yourself like gold, its about respecting the self-esteem of others. Insecure people hurt others and feel unwilling to apologize. Someone with Kanyesteem will apologize with no issue.

6. OVERCOME ALL OBSTACLES.

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Whether you were raised with one parent in the hood or had to lose a loved one and be expected to continue being great-know that Mr West did it all. His past was no perfect and neither were his humilating public debacles. That did not matter he still overcame it all with time. Bad things happen to us all. Next time you are down just remember Kanye could do it and so can you.

7. STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE.
8. NEVER LET ANYONE TELL YOU NOTHING.

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There will be times you will be in the minority when it comes to doing the right thing. You will be falsely accused and dragged for things you didn’t even do. People will come against you and the feeling to run will come upon you. STAND UP AND FIGHT BACK. Kanye doesn’t run and he refuses to be robbed of his kudos. You are the captain of your ship and if you have to walk alone, do it confidently. It’s experiences like this that build your Kanyesteem.

Written By: Natosh Monroe
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